All About BDSM

Submission

admin — Sun, 20 May 2012 22:11:05 +0000

Includes set of behaviors, customs and rituals that have a goal of giving control to another person (Dominant) in an erotic session or a lifestyle arrangement. Submissive person derives sexual pleasure or arousal from being dominated. Physical contact is not necessary and may vary from none to intense, which may then traverse to sadomasochism. Relationships with dominants also vary in the number of partners involved (monogamous or poly-amorous), type of scene (erotic, BDSM) etc. Consent, however, is vital for any type of scene between the submissive and dominant to begin.

Straitjacket

admin — Sat, 19 May 2012 22:10:47 +0000

A restrictive garment in the shape of a jacket with overlong sleeves that can be tied to the back of the wearer, so that arms are tied tightly to the chest, with little possibility of movement. Due to their effectiveness as a restraint, they are very popular item in bondage games. Usually straitjackets are made from canvas or strong material called duck cloth, but fetishistic types are also available in PVC or leather. Most of them feature a crotch-strap whose role is to prevent the jacket from being pulled up and off. Straitjackets intended for bondage games also have additional restraining like wrist straps, lockable fastenings or possibility to cross the arms at the back.

Spanking

admin — Fri, 18 May 2012 22:07:20 +0000

A type of corporal punishment consisted of striking submissive’s buttocks with an open palm or other implements, for purpose of sexual gratification. Spanking may also be called paddling, caning, whipping etc., depending on the sort of implement used. Erotic spanking is usually combined with other sexual activities, for instance bondage, to enhance the feeling of helplessness and submissiveness.

Smothering

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 21:56:35 +0000

A type of breath play that consists of air deprivation by covering mouth or nose with a hand, plastic bag or a pillow, for instance. It can be either complete or partial, latter allowing person to inhale some air, though less than under normal circumstances. Due to possible risks of permanent damage or even death, safety precautions must be met. The most common acceptance of the word "smother" is actually for facesitting in Femdom.

Slave

admin — Wed, 16 May 2012 21:51:20 +0000

A specific type of a submissive with no exact definition due to ongoing debates in BDSM community regarding whether slave is a state of ownership or identity. Some slaves are self-defined, looking for sexual role play, while the others are searching for long-term, highly committed lifestyle arrangement.

Slavery

admin — Tue, 15 May 2012 16:47:11 +0000

Type of BDSM relationship in which the submissive individual gives ultimate authority over them to dominant. Also known as total power exchange, slavery is a relationship usually entered into on a consensual basis, unlike historical or modern non-consensual slavery. It does not require any specific acts, although sexual aspect is almost always present. Slaves usually wear a collar, get included in a slave register, adopt a name chosen by the owner and even sign slave contract with explicit details regarding future slavery (no legal weight!). Participants involved may be of any gender or sexual orientation.

Sadism

admin — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:36:21 +0000

Term derived from the author Marquis De Sade, describing derivation of pleasure as a result of inflicting pain. Unlike nonsexual sadists, persons enjoying sadistic practices in BDSM are exercising it for (in)direct sexual pleasure. For instance, a sadist may enjoy the feeling of power and control that comes from his/her dominant role or receive indirect pleasure from watching a masochist suffer. However, psychologists still debate on what connects these emotional experiences to sexual gratification.

Rope

admin — Sun, 13 May 2012 16:32:47 +0000

Length of braided or twisted fibers put together to improve strength for pulling and tying. Rope is thicker and therefore stronger than similarly constructed string, cord or line. It’s usually made of natural fibers such as hemp, cotton or linen. Rope can endure heavy weight thanks to its great tensile strength, so it is most popular implement used for erotic bondage.

PVC

admin — Sat, 12 May 2012 16:31:55 +0000

A widely used material that found its place in fetishistic wardrobe due to its sheen, availability and low price. It is also waterproof and commonly used in jackets, coats and bags. Unlike leather and latex, PVC isn’t highly appreciated among fetishists but it is widespread among goth, punk and other alternative scenes.

Perverse

admin — Fri, 11 May 2012 16:10:19 +0000

In a sexual context, perverse is opposite of what is generally considered to be normal and non-deviant sexual behavior. Orthodox people use this term to describe controversial practices that seem abnormal and repulsive to them. Of course, concept of perversion is subjective and dependable on society, culture, individual preferences etc. Psychologists, however, prefer to use the word paraphilia.