Wax
Generally refers to beeswax or another substance with similar properties. In BDSM, it is used for sensual play involving warm or hot wax being dripped onto a submissive person’s naked skin. Depending on the type of candles and its different crock pot temperatures, various effects are achieved. However, heat tolerance is individual and may change if the wax is used on a different body parts. It is very important to be cautios around nipple and genital area, since wax can cause serious burns if used inappropriately. Also, wax is difficult to wash out of clothes and bed linen.
Trample
To harshly beat down person with bare or covered feet so as to bruise and crush. Submissive persons with a trampling fetish may enjoy the feeling of humiliation, helplessness or absolute loss of control. In a milder version that doesn’t leave bruises or injuries behind, it could be connected to foot fetish and fascination with feet in general.
Torture
In BDSM context, term refers to any act of intentional infliction of pain and suffering for the purpose of sadistic gratification or punishment. Torture doesn’t necessarily imply physical contact, since it can also be psychological. Throughout history, many types of physical torture have been developed, such as beating (either with bare hand or with sophisticated devices), restraint in awkward or damaging positions, extremes of hot and cold, sensory and sleep deprivation etc. Though the effects of psychological torture are not immediately visible, it may be equally damaging to the submissive person. Such examples include intentional use of extreme stressors and situations such as mock execution, violation of sexual taboos or extended solitary confinement. If not practiced carefully and with safety, torture may lead to severe physical and mental health problems.
Tit torture
Includes erotic BDSM activities that consist of inflicting pain to breasts, nipples and areola in order to achieve sexual gratification. It is often used in combination with breast bondage, which restraints the area to be tortured. Methods of tit torture include: flagellation, clamping, electricity, abrasion, wax, piercing, suction, pinching, biting, chemical play etc.
Suspension
A type of sexual bondage where a tied person is hung from one or more overhead suspension points. There is a partial and full suspension. When a person’s weight is only partially held by suspension ropes, cables or chains, than it’s partial suspension. On the other hand, when a person is completely supported by suspension ropes without touching the ground, it’s full suspension. Latter requires both skills of the binder and endurance of a tied person. Main effect of suspension is to induce the sense of vulnerability and inescapability, but one must consider safety risks such as falling, nerve compression, fainting .
Submissive
In a BDSM relationship, submissive partner is the one who consents to being dominated by another person and respecting set of behaviors/rules that may include obedience, tameness, compliance etc. Submissiveness may also imply showing respect and deference, completion of various tasks gives by a dominant etc. Submissive’s consent is necessary for any BDSM activities to take place and consent may be withdrawn at any time.
Submission
Includes set of behaviors, customs and rituals that have a goal of giving control to another person (Dominant) in an erotic session or a lifestyle arrangement. Submissive person derives sexual pleasure or arousal from being dominated. Physical contact is not necessary and may vary from none to intense, which may then traverse to sadomasochism. Relationships with dominants also vary in the number of partners involved (monogamous or poly-amorous), type of scene (erotic, BDSM) etc. Consent, however, is vital for any type of scene between the submissive and dominant to begin.
Straitjacket
A restrictive garment in the shape of a jacket with overlong sleeves that can be tied to the back of the wearer, so that arms are tied tightly to the chest, with little possibility of movement. Due to their effectiveness as a restraint, they are very popular item in bondage games. Usually straitjackets are made from canvas or strong material called duck cloth, but fetishistic types are also available in PVC or leather. Most of them feature a crotch-strap whose role is to prevent the jacket from being pulled up and off. Straitjackets intended for bondage games also have additional restraining like wrist straps, lockable fastenings or possibility to cross the arms at the back.
Spanking
A type of corporal punishment consisted of striking submissive’s buttocks with an open palm or other implements, for purpose of sexual gratification. Spanking may also be called paddling, caning, whipping etc., depending on the sort of implement used. Erotic spanking is usually combined with other sexual activities, for instance bondage, to enhance the feeling of helplessness and submissiveness.
Smothering
A type of breath play that consists of air deprivation by covering mouth or nose with a hand, plastic bag or a pillow, for instance. It can be either complete or partial, latter allowing person to inhale some air, though less than under normal circumstances. Due to possible risks of permanent damage or even death, safety precautions must be met. The most common acceptance of the word "smother" is actually for facesitting in Femdom.